Either way it is a question of comfort and quality of life, not morality. In a very real way the existence of PrEP forces all gay men to face a similar choice. Many will choose to continue using condoms, and some might not. But rather than slut-shaming them and calling them whores we should be educating them and empowering them to have healthy and rewarding sex lives.

For many of us living with HIV, that’s what the FDA’s approval of Truvada for use as PrEP means—hope. Hope that one day we can let our guard down, be less than perfectly vigilant and love without fear.

My greatest fear is that I am going to give you HIV. In fact, I am just as afraid of passing along my virus as you are of contracting it. And that is true for most of the HIV-positive guys I know.〔